The WildHER Way
Reflections on Leadership, Life, and Everything In Between
When Everyone Agrees, What Aren't You Hearing?
What has their experience taught them about what happens when they disagree? Most leaders want people to bring ideas, think critically, and flag concerns. Hearing that our own idea might have a problem, though, can feel a little different from welcoming feedback in theory.
Emotional Intelligence Doesn’t Mean Lowering the Bar
Emotional intelligence doesn’t require us to take responsibility for everyone else’s emotions. It does require us to take responsibility for our own behavior and to be aware of the impact that behavior can reasonably have on other people. That distinction matters, especially when we talk about accountability.
Before You Call Them Resistant
Before calling someone resistant, it may be worth getting closer to what they believe is at stake. Are they reacting to this decision, or to what earlier decisions have taught them to expect?
Ownership Requires More Than an Assignment
I recently found language for something I have believed for a long time…if accountability only travels down the org chart, it isn't accountability. It's authority. Authority gives you the right to make certain decisions. Leadership determines whether people trust you with that right, and accountability requires you to answer for how you use it.
Leadership Is About Making Room
A leader's role is not to be at the center of everything. It is to understand what people need in order to be effective and to help clear the path. Sometimes that means opening a door. Sometimes it means stepping back. More often than we realize, leadership is less about adding ourselves to the work and more about removing the barriers that keep others from doing theirs.
Leadership Begins with a Pause
Leadership rarely slows down on its own. Between meetings, emails, and constant demands, it's easy to move from one decision to the next without thinking. What if one simple pause could change the way you lead?
Available Isn’t the Same as Present
Leadership isn't about standing front and center or collecting the credit. It's about creating the conditions for other people to thrive.
What Leaders Carry Into the Room
The longer I work with leaders, the more I realize how rarely we discuss leadership's inner life. We focus on what leaders do—communication, delegation, conflict resolution, and performance management. Far less attention is paid to what leaders bring into the room.
Someone Believed in Me Before I Believed in Myself
What stands out to me now isn't the negotiation. It's the fact that someone believed I could do something I wasn't entirely convinced I could do myself.
The CEO saw potential in me long before I fully recognized it. Looking back, I realize how often that happens in leadership. Sometimes other people see our capacity before we do. Sometimes they see strengths we've dismissed as ordinary because they've always come naturally to us.
At the time, though, I wasn't thinking about potential. I was trying to survive each day without anyone discovering how much I didn't know
Choosing Alignment in a Season of Change
I think many women eventually reach a season where the question shifts from What do others need from me? to What am I being called toward now? This chapter is my answer.