Finding Your People Without Making It Weird…Okay, Maybe a Little Weird
Why is making friends as a grown woman so awkward? We can make small talk at work, collect hundreds of social media “friends,” and send memes all day—but asking another woman to grab dinner somehow feels like proposing marriage.
In this episode, Shelley and Mary sit down with Ciya Hawkins, founder of The Social Introvert, to talk about the very real struggle of making friends as an adult. Ciya shares how a 3 a.m. idea turned into a growing community where women can put down their phones, step outside their routines, and find people who are willing to do more than just like their pictures.
They get into loneliness, changing friendships, depleted social batteries, and the myth that introverts want to sit home alone forever. Spoiler alert—they don’t. They just prefer genuine conversation over screaming across a crowded club while paying $17 for a drink.
Of course, it wouldn’t be WildHER Wisdom without a few detours. Expect Mumus and Margaritas, competitive musical chairs, adult playdates, Shelley’s “partio,” serial-killer speakeasies, and a brief attempt to manifest Barack Obama into Shelley’s text messages.
Ciya leaves us with the reminder every woman needs to hear. You are never too old to make a new friend. Send the text. Accept the invitation. Go to the event. Somebody has to be awkward first so y’all can become friends.